What’s the point of empathy?
This morning as I took my usual morning walk around the garden I heard a bird call that I didn’t recognise. I looked up and there was a female blackbird, with i...
Category: therapy
Ten things you can get from therapy
1. Better relationships As you start to learn what makes you tick, what makes others tick, and what your triggers are, it becomes easier to connect with others ...
Turning away from anxiety and depression
We usually come to therapy because we are unhappy, or dissatisfied; because we want to change. Often, what we want to change from is feeling anxious or depresse...
Why do we come to therapy?
Why do we come and sit in a room, and talk to a stranger, and share our deepest thoughts and feelings? My therapy room is at the end of a long narrow corridor. ...
The biggest frog (how to get things done)
I sat facing a blank page for about an hour this morning. Occasionally I wrote a few words and then I deleted them. They didn’t feel like the beginning of anyth...
Living with change
Written late spring/early summer Suzuki Roshi was once asked if anything was constant in this life. He replied with one word: change. A couple of weeks ago I wa...
How accepting ‘what is’ leads to real change
Yesterday afternoon I was tired, and I was grumpy. I was upset with someone for not having behaved how I wanted them too, or how I thought I would have behaved ...
Taking care of ourselves in a busy world
As autumn approaches we start to feel the first trace of autumn in the air. The nights draw in and the days slowly get cooler. Trees turn from bright summer gre...
How can we begin to grow?
How our relationship with our therapist leads to change Most research that compares different types of therapy, to see which is more effective, reaches the same...
Learning to stay sane around people
After a very peopled few days it is quiet in the temple today. It is lunchtime, and the only other person I have seen waved at me from a top floor window, whils...