Grief and Climate Change
In our Buddhist community, at the invitation of our local XR group, we dedicate one practice session each month to the living earth. In our most recent session I talked about and made a space for grief, and I’ll share some of those same thoughts here. Grief I remember a childhood holiday to Cornwall. We […]
We have to go slow to go fast
We come to therapy when we want to change. Sometimes we are desperate to change, and that urgency makes complete sense; we feel awful and we want to feel better, or we can see the downsides of our moods and habits and are worried about getting into more trouble. If our whole system was ready […]
Why therapists should be clients
I’ve just returned to personal therapy. I’m confident this is a good thing for my clients, as well as for me personally. Being a client reminds me how it is for my own clients to be in therapy. How strange it is to come to a first session, and the nerves that come with imagining […]
What is Wild Mind?
I’m half-way through my training in Wild Therapy. You may have seen me writing about the power of working outside before (here and here). We work outside a lot on the Wild Therapy training, but it isn’t the whole story. As well as appreciating and coming into relationship with the wild out there, Wild Therapy […]
Is love a dirty word?
Read my article about therapists love for their clients at the Counselling Directory: is Love a Dirty Word?
Healing with Internal Family Systems
Read my new article on the Counselling Directory website, about healing with IFS – a research backed form of therapy: Healing with Internal Family Systems. Why is there a picture of Inside Out accompanying this link? Because IFS is all about working with the different parts that make us human.
One thing you can do to improve your mental health
This is a piece about songlines, and about maps, and about one thing you can do to improve your mental health. A couple of weeks ago I was walking through a valley on the edge of the Forest of Bowland. I crossed over the river Roeburn at the bottom of the valley, and the woodland […]
The magic ingredient of therapy
There are lots of wonderful techniques that we learnt in therapy training: different ways of reflecting what you have said, different ways of asking you questions and teasing out the issues that you bring to therapy, using feelings in the body, or using the natural world as a resource. These are all great. And there […]
Get Ready Player 1
When Satya and I started running a Buddhist temple it felt like we had suddenly progressed to the next level of the game. I can almost see the cut scene, and hear the music: the temple rendered in 8-bit glory the 8-bit beeps and whistles. When we got our puppy a month ago it felt […]
Stress as the gateway to freedom
A post shared by Kaspalita (@kaspalita) on Apr 21, 2019 at 10:17am PDT At 8.15am the new puppy had just gone to sleep. She’d been up since 6:30am, and from 8.00am she was biting and chewing and chasing everything in sight: her toys, my toes, my wife’s shoes, the cat… Sometimes when she’s tired she […]