The Others Within Us
The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession by Robert Falconer Robert Falconer’s book is an important addition to the IFS cannon. It’s an exploration of something that exists outside of traditional psychotherapy, and yet many practitioners will recognise what Falconer is saying from their own client work. I notice that […]
Haiku Therapy
In the year before the pandemic, the year of my Wild Therapy training, I wrote lots of haiku. I wrote for myself and I took part in a haiku writing group online. Each week in the group there was a theme and each week I wrote a few haiku with that theme in mind, and […]
Lock-down can be tough, and lock-down can be an opportunity
How are you doing in these unusual times? My dreams have been particularly vivid since lock-down started: old memories finding their way to the surface and inviting attention and letting go. With less face-to-face contact the ups and downs of my moods has been easier to notice. Some days I’m relaxed, and some days my […]
Online Therapy
I have always seen clients both face to face and online. During the UK’s lockdown my practice went entirely online and now I’m back to working both ways again. Online work is different, of course. There’s no greeting at the door and walking down the hallway into a room that we both physically occupy. Some […]
New Year, New You? How to Make Real Change
It’s that time of year again. We’re just in to the second week of January and many of us will have broken our New Year’s resolutions already. What’s going on, and how can we really change? The New Year is often a time for reflection and contemplation. We look at the past year, celebrate some […]
Grief and Climate Change
In our Buddhist community, at the invitation of our local XR group, we dedicate one practice session each month to the living earth. In our most recent session I talked about and made a space for grief, and I’ll share some of those same thoughts here. Grief I remember a childhood holiday to Cornwall. We […]
We have to go slow to go fast
We come to therapy when we want to change. Sometimes we are desperate to change, and that urgency makes complete sense; we feel awful and we want to feel better, or we can see the downsides of our moods and habits and are worried about getting into more trouble. If our whole system was ready […]
Why therapists should be clients
I’ve just returned to personal therapy. I’m confident this is a good thing for my clients, as well as for me personally. Being a client reminds me how it is for my own clients to be in therapy. How strange it is to come to a first session, and the nerves that come with imagining […]
What is Wild Mind?
I’m half-way through my training in Wild Therapy. You may have seen me writing about the power of working outside before (here and here). We work outside a lot on the Wild Therapy training, but it isn’t the whole story. As well as appreciating and coming into relationship with the wild out there, Wild Therapy […]
Healing with Internal Family Systems
Read my new article on the Counselling Directory website, about healing with IFS – a research backed form of therapy: Healing with Internal Family Systems. Why is there a picture of Inside Out accompanying this link? Because IFS is all about working with the different parts that make us human.